The majority of married couples never plan to get divorced, but it happens all the time. Whether it’s because of infidelity, money issues, or just growing apart over time, divorce can be devastating and expensive for everyone involved if you’re not prepared for it. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to minimize your chances of getting divorced, from avoiding marriage to choosing the right partner in the first place. This article discusses the 5 top causes of divorce in marriage and how you can avoid them to save your relationship and your money before it’s too late.
1. Infidelity
Although many people find infidelity difficult to understand, it’s one of the most common reasons for divorce. If your marriage has ended because you were unfaithful, know that it isn’t your partner’s fault. You are responsible for your actions and no amount of blame-shifting will change that fact. It’s only when you acknowledge responsibility for your infidelity that you can truly begin to heal.
Your partner is not at fault for what happened and he or she is not responsible for helping you fix things; each party has his or her healing process, which should be respected and honored.
2. Money problems
The most common reason for divorce is money problems. The National Endowment for Financial Education reports that 75% of divorces are initiated by women and 90% are due to failure to meet expectations. Research shows that financial disagreements and mismanagement lead to more than 50% of all divorces.
Most importantly, when one partner becomes financially dependent on another, it can be difficult to hold an objective view of a situation and causes tension between partners. The lesson here? For a marriage or any relationship, be transparent about your finances and know where you stand financially with your partner. If you keep things a secret, your money issues will destroy what matters most – your marriage or relationship.
3. Lack of understanding
Understanding is crucial for marriage success. Without it, you and your spouse will have a hard time accepting one another’s flaws, empathizing with each other’s struggles, and working through disagreements and issues. When you understand where your partner is coming from and they understand where you are coming from you won’t be as quick to give up on them or divorce them.
You will also be more likely to compromise instead of sticking to rigid standards that cannot be compromised. Or feeling like you are being treated unfairly or unjustly. In other words, good communication during all stages of marriage including before marriage, during it, and after will help decrease separation rates.
4. Lack of communication
Some experts say that communication is one of, if not THE most important aspect, of a successful marriage. There are a lot of different opinions on how to go about communicating with your spouse; some say you should be brutally honest, while others suggest tactful honesty.
No matter what your relationship style is, you and your partner must work together to find common ground when communicating. Communicating properly will help you understand each other better and let each other know what is most important in life. This can help set boundaries for both spouses as well.
5. Kids
Some women report feeling like their husband isn’t interested in being a parent. They feel as if he’s letting them shoulder more than their fair share of childcare responsibilities. This doesn’t help foster any sense of togetherness or harmony.
Lack of togetherness is often cited as one reason why divorce happens so often when children are young. Even if it takes some real effort on your part to make time for each other during those early years, it’s better to work through your problems as a couple and do whatever you can to keep your marriage intact.
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